Lessons From The Messy Middle
Lessons From The Messy Middle
What I’ve learned in 50 days of writing
Yesterday I reached the halfway point in 100 Days of Writing. At this mid-point I have begun to see the profound impact this challenge can have, and to understand the effect on my writing, both in terms of my relationship with it and my output.
Even if you’re not taking part in the challenge it’s worth considering what gentle, regular connection with your writing can do. To give you a glimpse, here are nine personal takeaways from the last 50 days…
I can find time to write every day. This is important in a world where we so often feel rushed off our feet, with endless demands and distractions competing with the quiet, still time we need to write. I’ve found that it is possible, even on busy days, to find a few minutes to connect with my writing. The key for me is reframing what writing looks like. I don’t need to write 1000 words to consider my writing ‘done’. Writing can look like taking notes, or research, or even just daydreaming my project into being. It all counts. And I can find that kind of time on even the most hectic of days.
That said, I do need to protect dedicated writing time. I’ve been busier than expected in the last few weeks and, coupled with the reduced energy I always experience at this time of year, and a few minor health issues, I’ve found showing up a challenge at times. I’ve seen clearly how even though I know how essential protecting my time is, I still tend to overcommit myself - usually to fit in with other people. This is the remnants of my people-pleasing, which I have worked hard to address. So, for the next 50 days I’m finding ways to reduce my commitments and make my schedule work better for me.
It helps to plan ahead. I am a planner, so this comes naturally for me, but even the pantsiest of pantsers will benefit from making a few notes at the end of a writing session about what comes next, or what they will work on next time. Sitting down to a bank page is a recipe for block. Sitting down with something to work on counters resistance and helps keep the words flowing.
Days off are important too. I realised some time ago how important it is for me to have regular down time. And, this might sound like an oxymoron, but I often plan and protect my rest days too. During this 100 Days I have purposefully kept my writing to a minimum at the weekend, choosing fun tasks like research or planning that don’t feel like work. Doing this has helped me stay motivated and refreshed for the coming week.
Regular connection with my writing makes the work easier. I’ve seen how the subconscious keeps working behind the scenes, tossing out ideas at unexpected moments, and making connections much quicker. When I do sit down to write, I get into the flow quicker too. I don’t think writing every day is necessary, or possible for most, but the benefits of a little and often approach are multiple.
After fifteen years of historical fiction, writing something contemporary has been a revelation. My current project draws heavily on personal memories and experiences (though it isn’t about me at all) and it is, frankly, easier! I suspected this deep down, but to experience it is something else. It’s opened my eyes to future possibilities.
My attitude towards my writing works in direct parallel with my mental and physical health. If I feel good then I am generally positive about my writing; and the opposite is also true. The more I do the things that keep me well-rested and healthy, the more positive I am about my writing and the more productive I am.
I might not be a natural leader, but putting myself in a leadership position is good for me. Like many writers, I’m an introvert and left to my own devices, I will hide away and isolate. This is fine up to a point, but I know that connection with other humans is necessary for my wellbeing. Taking on the responsibility of leading 100 Days pushes me out of my comfort zone, grows my confidence, and keeps me accountable, which benefits my writing, my friendships and my future. It might feel hard sometimes, but I know it’s worth it.
Community is crucial. Writers need other writers, and the community I’ve gathered around 100 Days is bringing me unexpected amounts of joy. Whether it’s hearing about people’s progress, or chatting in our weekly Zoom writing room, the mutual camaraderie and support is keeping me going. It’s made me clearer than ever that the next iteration of The Inkwell will be have community at its heart.
You don’t have to take my word for it. Here are a few 100 Dayers on how the challenge is benefitting them…
100 days has helped me build a regular writing rhythm, and eased the transitions back into my WIP when I’ve had to put it aside for other writing projects. Embracing the gentleness also got me through a difficult couple of weeks … I’m feeling the joy again now, and I credit 100 day techniques for that.
I no longer see myself as blocked...I am getting closer to my manuscript and while I’d like the editing of that book to be in my goals, the other thing I’ve learned is to be kind to myself!!! No criticism when I miss a day or write only a short note. So, my modest goal is to keep up this same rhythm - allowing writing into my life again, in whatever form it takes!
Or more simply put by @jennycooke…
I’ve made the very useful discovery that if I just keep showing up, progress happens.
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I've done many writing exercises and plans, but this has been the best. I may not always be pounding away at the keyboard, but I am always working towards something, particularly with research.
I’ve been fairly useless at remembering to diarise Fridays 2-3, so keep having to play ‘catch up’ (which is fine!)
But looking hip replacement, still working full time and looking after ageing parents and other relatives has rather taken its toll so that’s why you’ve not seen me much on your zooms!